Karde\u015f k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131, aile i\u00e7inde en s\u0131k ya\u015fanan problemlerden biridir. K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k duygusu, ebeveynin ”sevdi\u011fi tek ki\u015fi” olma iste\u011finden kaynaklan\u0131r. K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k do\u011fal bir duygudur ancak, ayn\u0131 zamanda ac\u0131 da verir. Medicana International \u0130stanbul Hastanesi Uzman Klinik Psikologu Melis \u00c7eki\u00e7 G\u00fcllo\u011flu; karde\u015f k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n aile, sosyal ve okul hayat\u0131 \u00fczerindeki etkileri konusunda \u00f6nemli bilgiler verdi:<\/p>\n

B\u00fcy\u00fckler k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckleri k\u0131skanabildi\u011fi gibi, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckler de b\u00fcy\u00fckleri k\u0131skanabilir. \u00d6rne\u011fin b\u00fcy\u00fckler k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckleri onlara daha \u00e7ok ilgi g\u00f6sterildi\u011fi y\u00f6n\u00fcnde k\u0131skan\u0131rken, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar da b\u00fcy\u00fckleri k\u0131skan\u0131r \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc; k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuk pek \u00e7ok \u015feyi yapamazken (y\u00fcr\u00fcmek, ko\u015fmak, istedi\u011fi nesneyi istedi\u011fi anda alabilmek vb.) b\u00fcy\u00fck karde\u015fin pek \u00e7ok \u015fey yapabildi\u011fini g\u00f6rmek, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocukta k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k yaratabilir ve bunlar\u0131 kald\u0131rmak kolay olmaz.<\/p>\n

KISKAN\u00c7LI\u011eIN A\u00c7IK BEL\u0130RT\u0130LER\u0130…<\/strong><\/h5>\n

\u00c7ocuklardaki k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131k belirtileri \u015fu \u015fekildedir: Kabuslar g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flamas\u0131, gece alt\u0131na ka\u00e7\u0131rmaya ba\u015flamas\u0131, ortal\u0131\u011f\u0131 k\u0131r\u0131p d\u00f6kmeye ba\u015flamak-\u00f6fke patlamalar\u0131, t\u0131rnak yemek, kendi sa\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 yolmak, yemek yememek, i\u00e7e kapanmak, eskiden yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve keyif ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 aktivitelere kar\u015f\u0131 isteksizlik, ba\u015f a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131-mide bulant\u0131s\u0131, cilt lekeleri.<\/p>\n

KISKAN\u00c7LIK BEL\u0130RT\u0130S\u0130 G\u0130ZL\u0130 DAVRANI\u015eLAR…<\/strong><\/h5>\n

\u00c7ocuklardaki k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n belirtisi olan gizli davran\u0131\u015flar ise \u015fu \u015fekildedir: S\u00fcrekli rekabet halinde olmas\u0131 veya t\u00fcm performans gerektiren yar\u0131\u015fmalardan ka\u00e7\u0131nmas\u0131, s\u00fcrekli giri\u015fken ve pop\u00fcler olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma veya kendine g\u00fcvensiz ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131na itaatkar olma. Kay\u0131ts\u0131z veya fazlas\u0131yla c\u00f6mert olma veya insafs\u0131zl\u0131k ve a\u00e7g\u00f6zl\u00fcl\u00fck. Unutulmamal\u0131d\u0131r ki karde\u015f k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131 evrensel ve do\u011fal bir duygudur ve \u00e7ocuklar karde\u015f k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in cezaland\u0131r\u0131lmamal\u0131 ve ”k\u00f6t\u00fc bir \u00e7ocuk olarak adland\u0131r\u0131lmamal\u0131.<\/p>\n

SU\u00c7LAMAK VE CEZALANDIRMAKTAN KA\u00c7ININ…<\/strong><\/h5>\n

\u00c7ocu\u011fu bu do\u011fal duygusundan \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fc su\u00e7lamak ve cezaland\u0131rmak son derece yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u00c7ocu\u011fun karde\u015fini b\u00fcy\u00fck ve de\u011fi\u015fmez bir mutluluk i\u00e7inde kabul etmesini ve s\u00fcrecin peri masal\u0131 gibi ge\u00e7mesini beklemek do\u011fru de\u011fildir. \u00d6ncelikle do\u011fumdan \u00f6nce bir karde\u015f gelece\u011fi abart\u0131lmadan ve t\u00f6rensiz bir \u015fekilde s\u00f6ylenmelidir. Anne karn\u0131 belirginle\u015ftikten sonra yeni gelecek olan bebe\u011fi beraber sevmek ve bu \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 yaparken annenin \u00e7ocu\u011funu yak\u0131n\u0131nda tutmas\u0131 ve ona dokunmas\u0131 \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. Yeni gelecek karde\u015f i\u00e7in onun dikkatini \u00e7ekebilecek al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fler yapmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. Karde\u015f do\u011fmadan \u00f6nce b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocu\u011fun yatak odas\u0131n\u0131n, anne ve baba yatak odas\u0131ndan uzun s\u00fcre \u00f6nce ayr\u0131lm\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131 gerekir.<\/p>\n

KARDE\u015e DO\u011eDU, PEK\u0130 \u015e\u0130MD\u0130 NASIL DAVRANMALIYIZ?<\/strong><\/h5>\n

B\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocu\u011fun annesiyle do\u011fumun hemen ard\u0131ndan de\u011fil, anne rahatlad\u0131ktan sonra g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesi \u00e7ok daha iyi olacakt\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc annesini bitkin ve hasta halde g\u00f6rmesi, bebe\u011fi veya kendisini su\u00e7lamas\u0131na sebep olabilir. Karde\u015f ile ilk kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmas\u0131 ebeveynin kuca\u011f\u0131nda de\u011fil, bebe\u011fin kendi yata\u011f\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Gerekirse karde\u015ften gelen g\u00fczel bir ”merhaba” hediyesi karde\u015fi rahatlatabilir. Anne bebe\u011fi emzirmeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda bir kolunda bebe\u011fin, di\u011fer taraf\u0131nda ise b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocu\u011fun olmas\u0131 \u00f6nemlidir. Annenin bebe\u011fi emzirirken bir taraftan onunla sohbet etmesi onu \u00e7ok mutlu edebilir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Karde\u015f k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131, aile i\u00e7inde en s\u0131k ya\u015fanan problemlerden biridir. K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k duygusu, ebeveynin ”sevdi\u011fi tek ki\u015fi” olma iste\u011finden…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":114678,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[7],"tags":[38429,24852,38430],"yoast_head":"\n